Going through a Divorce is difficult, not to mention the current unfamiliar and unpredictable times, as a result of COVID-19 that may be adding to one's anxiety and fear about embarking on or pursuing the Divorce process.
For those parties who have separated, are going through a separation or contemplating separating, here are my 6 tips for getting through this difficult period:
- You and your partner should reach a mutual agreement about the time the children will spend with each of you during term time, school holidays and on 'special occasions'. Remember to keep the needs of the children at the forefront of your mind in these discussions and be fair and reasonable when negotiating with your partner.
- Ensure that any agreement you reach with your partner about the children is reflected in writing (text message or email).
- Do not argue or discuss parenting arrangements in the presence of your children. It is important not to negatively influence your children's relationship or opinion of your partner.
- Make sure that you budget carefully so that you have enough money to get you through this period. If you still share a bank account, set ground rules for how much you are both allowed to access and spend. If you believe you are eligible for Government assistance, be proactive and make the necessary enquiries.
- Make sure that you reach out to your family and friends so that you do not feel isolated. Due to current restrictions, face-to-face contact may not be possible but this does not mean that you cannot connect with those close to you by telephone, Skype and Face-time.
- Lastly, make a plan. I am a big advocate for making plans. I encourage my clients to do the same. Make a plan about what you would like to achieve in the short-term, immediate and long-term. Ask yourselves what do I need to do to achieve my plan and who do I need to reach out to, to help me activate it?
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