Good parenting requires excellent teamwork by the parents,
whether they are separated or not.
Take Parenting Advice
Separation creates a new parenting dynamic. Adapting to that
dynamic can require assistance from experts.
Involve yourself in Counselling
You can book counselling sessions with a specialist counsellor
through the government funded Family Relationship Centre or through
a private counsellor of your own choice.
Focus on the Children's Needs
Following the breakdown of a relationship, tensions can be
intense. The children's needs can easily be relegated to a
lower priority while parents deal with their own emotional issues.
DON'T ALLOW THAT TO HAPPEN.
Don't involve the Children in any Parenting
Speaking to the children about the nature of any dispute,
seeking their views, or commenting to them negatively about your
ex-partner, will be highly damaging for the children.
Communication with Your Children
The children will have questions which you should answer
truthfully, in a way that acknowledges their feelings and reassures
them that their parents are working together to create a
constructive solution to their concerns.
Take Legal Advice
A good lawyer will guide you through the complexities of what,
for most people, is a novel and unknown journey. That lawyer can
direct you to the non-legal services and support you will need on
Arrange Child Support
Adequate child support ensures that the children have the
physical security necessary to underpin a constructive parenting
Don't Tolerate Domestic Violence
If you have any concerns, raise them immediately with your
lawyer, your counsellor or with any professional with whom you are
dealing concerning the children.
Arrange a Parenting Plan
The best way to provide emotional security for the children is
for their parents to agree on, and implement, a thoughtful
parenting plan as soon as possible after separation.
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guide to the subject matter. Specialist advice should be sought
about your specific circumstances.
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